Why travel solo? Isn't depressing? Or boring or dangerous? So why should a person decide to travel solo? And why more and more people are likely to make this choice of travel? Why did I decide to pack up and go without even trying to find a companion to share this moments?
I have been traveling solo for almost 4 years, blogging since then and from email I receive everyday this is the most asked question.
The main reason why I did it the first time is that no one has proposed to come with me. No candidate in a competition never actually laden.
A journey is a beautiful event that we do so for long or short periods, excited by the choice made I did not even begged the company, nor asked around if anyone was willing to leave their jobs for six months and follow me. I did not need it, and above all I already knew that the general response was "I would love to but .....".
So the main reason that is typically behind the choice of traveling alone is that you do not find a companion. Simple!
But are there other reasons that encourage us to make this choice?
Travel with someone, I mean trips that exceed the weekend and the week in which the company even if isn't the perfect one won't harm anyway, it's like living in a relationship, there is a commitment to be together, to make decisions and share decision, discuss them and find compromises.
Things then go far beyond the "travel together" and the need to have company. Sometimes you have to give something up just to make happy the other person. When traveling with someone you must be ready to give up with your selfishness, if we want to see in romantic terms, set aside what I want to do to accommodate even the counterparty and vice versa, of course, keeping in mind that there is a risk: ruin friendships of years or discover that the friend you are traveling with is a good one but when at home!
Hence therefore the need to weigh well the choice of travel partners or begin to consider the possibility of going away on your own.
But there are real benefits to doing it?
I've been thinking a lot about it, knocked out a number of ideas, read in various blogs about the subject and I pulled my conclusions or plausible reasons. Here are the main reasons why to travel alone, more than the one I guess let us make, and I would like them summarized in the following points. Your comments and suggestions as always are welcome!
For those who follow me know that I write the travel time in solitary enough and on several occasions I said that for me the solitude has never been a real obstacle. I learned to live alone and to appreciate the moments when I do not have people around. I learned to come forward with people whenever I want company and know when to say no instead getting back to my room spending time in silence or enjoying my own company. And I do enjoy it!
The basic problem, and you don't have to be psychologist or an expert to understanding it, is that we are all afraid of loneliness, that too often project their own needs and the needs of other people, as if they alone were not able to sbrigarcela.
Loneliness, such a terrible word that echoes in our heads, the absence of a friendly face makes us feel as lost in a world inhabited by billions of other people, and these people are scary. The alien terrorizes and unleash the innermost fantasies and macabre.
The moment I decided to travel alone I have not even considered the problem, there was no company and I just wanted to go.
I decided to go away knowing that none of my friends wanted/could come with me. That was enough.
Have I ever been afraid of traveling alone?
Actually no. Or not of travel alone but I got scared when I realized that the taken decision could have changed the direction of my life. And YES that was scary.
My fear wasn't related to the fact that I was alone, it was instead related to the fact I started questioning my life on a personal level.
When I learned the difference between being alone and radical change on a personal level I thought "Giulia, this is the time where you have to prove that you have balls". (do you say this in english? If not I am sure you understand what I mean :-).
24 hours later the fear was gone.
Traveling alone forces us to rethink behaviors and attitudes, old habits or acquire new and different.
we must set up new rules, in fact we experience freedom of our choices but that freedom means likewise give us also limitations and learn how to manage your life in stranger places so far away from people we love (and we are loved).
Traveling alone has basically taught me one thing: Freedom doesn't mean doing what I want to do indiscriminately, it rather means doing what I want without missing a sense of responsibility, that is bigger when I am away from home.
What is your say about it? Have you been traveling solo? If so, why? Let me know what you think about it!
Cheers from South Africa!